Our donor is fabulous. His sense of humor has made what could be an awkward situation much more comfortable. He has been so accomodating. He was able to change our donation schedule with just a few hours notice. He also refuses to let me go out of my way to collect his sample. He is even delivering to my house at 6am tomorrow because he says that I need to be as relaxed as possible. This is the email that greeted me this morning. The backstory is that I couldn’t come out to his car when he dropped off his sample last night because I had just gotten out of the bath.
Good morning Cle0 patra;
That was the image that came to my mind. You coming out of your bath top full of milk, herbs and essence preparing you to receive the juice of life. Just like an Egyptian Queen, How fabulous!!
I just had to share this with someone. I am so very lucky to have someone like S as a donor. He and his partner are a welcome addition to our life and extended chosen family.
E 2 was only 99. NP suggested tr!gger Wednesday night. Instead I”m going to trigger early Thurs am (while using OPKs to make sure I’m not going to ovulate on my own earlier than that). Insem before work Thurs, late Thurs night and Friday after work. That will be 0, 14, and 35 hours post trigger. My donor is so incredibly accomodating that I’m sure he’d take time off work if I asked him but I don’t want to. I really can’t take any more time off work this week either. My numerous appointments have been noticed. My supervisor asked today if everything was OK. She knows about the hyp0thyr0id and the P C O S so I just told her I’ve been seeing an endocrinologist to get things straightened out. Only a half truth, right?
I woke up to blood and cramps. Called the R E to schedule my ultra sound for next Friday and let the new KD (S) know he was no longer on the bench. He was so very kind. His email said “rest assured we’re going to do it. Whatever it takes, as long as we have to do it. I have faith in my guys”. He did get his tests back and he has wonderful swimmers and is free of disease.
I am trying to see positive in this failure. I’m proud of my body. It did what it was supposed to do. We know I ovulated and my luteal phase was 15 days. I’m glad I have such a patient and supportive wife and donor (and his partner) to see me through this process. I’m hoping the fresh swimmers and 3 insems will do the trick.
I have decided not to switch R Es just yet. We’re going to do at least 3 months of home insems before going that route. I prefer it that way. The current R E will continue to medicate and monitor me but will not do insems in his office because I’m not married to S.
For those of you not flying under the radar there are some exciting changes afoot. One aspect of these changes that I can share publicly is the prospect of a new known donor (S). The access to free swimmers is very enticing. S is a very attractive and healthy man. He is in a monogamous relationship. He was tested for all S T Ds and HIV in December and is getting tested again next week. He is also undergoing a c0unt, m0tility, and m0rph0logy testing next week. He meets all the requirements we set for ourselves when we started shopping for a donor.
We discussed the possibility of using known and unknown donors when we were TTC with our previous KD. We want to have multiple children. We don’t one of our children to have access to their donor and another child to not have that privilege. I’m not sure what to do with our one vial of frozen that we have left if we decide to use S as our donor. Should we use the one vial and then start with S if it doesn’t work? If we use the vial should we do IUI or home IVI (my R E won’t work with KDs)?
There are three scenarios and their costs (all include cl0m1d, ultras0und & tr1gger)
Plan A: Use last frozen vial with one insem at home. Costs: Shipping $159 + Monitoring $420 (submitted to insurance but I haven’t met my deductible) + Meds $70 = $649
Plan B: Use last frozen vial with one IUI Costs: Shipping $159 + Monitoring $420 + Meds $70 + IUI $440 = $1089
Plan C: Use KD, 3 insems with fresh at home Costs: Monitoring $420 + Meds $70 = $490
Plan C looks cheapest but I didn’t take storage fees into account. We currently pay $35 monthly to store our one lonely vial. If we have it transferred to the RE we’ll have 6 months free storage and after that it’s $240 per year. If we store it at the bank for a year it’s $250. If we store it much longer than a year it’s more than the vial cost in the first place.
I checked my tracking number and the man in a can is sitting in a sort facility 18 miles away from my house and scheduled to be delivered tomorrow. I’m excited! I have an acupuncture appointment tomorrow and hopefully will be trying by the end of the week. Just waiting for a sign that the eggs gonna drop. Wish me luck (if anyone out there is still reading).
The chromosomes are ordered. They will be arriving Monday. Tonight I will take my third dose of Cl 0 mid. I had a very good acu puncture session Monday and will have another next Monday. Hopefully all will go as planned and this time next week I’ll be sp3rmy.
We were planning on waiting until this summer to try but there was no way it would have been possible. I have a few upcoming trips for work and will be out of town every other week from Memorial Day until the middle of July. Timing around that schedule would be hell. I didn’t want to wait any later to try. If this cycle doesn’t work we won’t be trying again until the end of the summer. That is unless my cycles line up perfectly with when I will be home. All big ifs but at least I’m moving forward. I had always hoped to be a mother before I turned 30. That isn’t going to happen but maybe I can be pregnant before 30.
