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Hello again

I’m back. I’ve been gone so long that I contemplated not returning. I figured no one was still checking on me; that everyone had assumed I’d never return. I decided that, with all the changes that have happened and will continue to happen,  I needed a place to write even if no one was still reading. I can now access word.press from work. That was the real problem. R is working on her Master’s (only 12 more weeks until she finishes) and I couldn’t ever get my hands on the laptop after work. We’ve had some pretty major changes since I fell off of the face of the earth.

 

1. On July 10th we celebrated our 10 year anniversary by flying to San Francisco and getting married! We were going to elope but then our families found out about it. I was so surprised that they all flew out to CA to be with us. My brother lives in Daly City and R’s dad lives in Pioneer so they were already out there. All of our parents and siblings were in CA to celebrate with us. We were married by the Bay in Tiburon on Thursday and spent the rest of the weekend together. Most of our family members had met, but it was the first time we were all together at once. Our Dad’s got along perfectly! They had so much fun together. We did learn that they should not be left alone though. They’re both pranksters and would get into way too much trouble if left unsupervised. There is already talk of R’s Dad coming to stay at my Dad’s farm for a week. Who knows if they’ll invite us. I’m so glad that everything went well. Our families weren’t awkward with each other. We even took my Dad to a few ga.y bars in the Cas.tro. That’s huge! He drives a muddy pickup truck, flies the Confe.derate flag, has a gun safe that’s larger than most people’s bathrooms, and once told me that the US went downhill when they gave women the right to vote. I never thought I’d see my Dad in a Ga.y bar. He was so happy at the wedding too. He cried. Actually, the only people that didn’t cry were my siblings and the officiant.

2. R still doesn’t have a full time job. She’s focusing on finishing her degree and preparing to take the L S A T. She’s narrowing down the list of law schools she will be applying to. We will most likely be moving again next summer.

 

3. I’m still at the job I hate. It’s still slow and I rarely have any actual work to do. I have half-heartedly been looking for another job but I’m torn. I know we will probably be moving in 8-10 months and don’t want to have to start another job and leave so soon. There is 1 law school that R is applying to in the area so there is the chance that we’ll be here for at least 3 years. I’ll look more seriously if we’re staying in the area.

 

4. I will be getting some time off of work in October. The ankle that I hurt when I broke my foot in December is still f’ed up. I’m having surgery October 2nd. I’m not looking forward to the 6 weeks in a cast or the 6 weeks of crutches. I talked to a trainer at the gym. I’m going to try to improve my upper body strength. That’s what killed me last time I was on crutches. I resorted to rolling around the house in my desk chair. I don’t want to have to do that again.

 

5. TTC – Before we flew to CA for our wedding I checked with my employer about adding R to my insurance. HR assured me that I could add R to my insurance as long as we were legally married (even though we weren’t going to be legally married in our state of residence). They were wrong. We were counting on that to start TTC again. We have decided to switch uteri. I will have my first insem in November. We’ve selected a donor from a bank. I registered and placed our first order (thanks to wedding $). On a side note: How exactly do you put that in a thank you note? Dear Auntie, Thanks for the cash. We bought spe.rm! Love, R & B

I’ve started acupuncture. I didn’t start it just because I wanted to TTC with my body. I felt like every time I went to my doctor with a complaint she would just throw another pill at me. I originally went to try to regulate my cycles without medication. It just so happens that my acupuncturist has done lots of fertility work. After one month of sessions I had my first unmedicated cycle in 5 years! I am hooked. He also has me on an herbal regimen and I have ovulated for the past 3 months. I also went for a physical in preparation to start TTC with my body. Blood.work showed that I have hypoth.yroidism. I got that under control with medication. Weight loss has been much easier since I’ve started the meds. I haven’t lost all I want to lose, but I think I’m in a good place to start TTC. I also found a doctor that is willing to do insems for me. We originally were having trouble finding a doctor that accepted my insurance and was also willing to perform an IUI on a woman that wasn’t married to a man. When I called his office the nurse that I spoke to seemed astonished that we had been turned away so many times. I am not crazy about having a male doctor and will probably return to my midwife for prenatal care if I ever get pregnant.

 

This post is already way too long so I’ll leave it at that. I promise it won’t be another 6 months before I post again.