Musings of the Other Mother

Entries from February 2007

Spring Break

26 February 2007 · 1 Comment

R and I are going to California for Spring Break. Her dad lives near Palo Alto and we are going out to visit. We haven’t ever been to CA and hope to spend one day in San Francisco. Any suggestions about what to do in San Francisco from those that have lived/visited there?

On another note, keep on the books & movies!

Categories: vacation

And now…Movies!

21 February 2007 · 6 Comments

Same premise as the book game, these quotes are from some of my favorite movies. Many are just silly, and mind-numbing entertainment, but I can watch them over and over. Just to keep things fair I have removed my favorite movies from my profile (I didn’t think about that with my books list). I must preface the list with this, I worked for Bl0ckbuster for 8 years. These may be a bit tough, you certainly won’t find “Show me the money!” or anything here. Not even “Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn!” and while I’m at it, no one ever said “Play it again Sam” in Casablanca.

I’ll start with 10, as of right now I have over 35 so if it goes well we have a lot to play with!

Keep at the books, there are still a few left.

Edit: I’ve started adding hints. I will just add more quotes from the movies first and then will add actual hints.

Here it goes:

1. These quotes are from the hilarious Drop Dead Gorgeous. It’ s definitely a guilty pleasure.
a) My mom gave me this 9 mill for my 13th birthday. Yeah. I’ll always remember what she put on the card. “Jesus Loves Winners”. That’s why I always aim to win.
b) Nope. No. Uh-uh. Never judged a pageant before in my life. Nope. No way. Never around young girls. Even if I was, why would I wanna be, y’know? I- I- I don’t get off on that kinda thing and that’s really why you’re askin’, right?… S- someone say somethin’?

2. This is a movie that I could watch over and over. Love Actually always puts me in a good mood!
a) Invite him out for a drink and then after about twenty minutes casually drop into the conversation the fact that you’d like to marry him and have lots of sex and babies.
b) Hiya kids. Here is an important message from your Uncle Bill. Don’t buy drugs. Become a pop star, and they give you them for free.

3. Wait! There’s something interesting in that woman’s smile. I might learn to like her. Hang her in my bathroom. Yes Shannon, this is from the 1982 version of Annie (the only version that’s worth anything!). It was the first home movie I owned, didn’t you love Beta? When I was a kid I watched this movie at least 3 times a day. My babysitter from 1983 still can’t hear “Tomorrow” without cringing! I can still recite large chunks of the movie if given a few lines to start. Isn’t it strange how our brain can remember things like quotes and song lyrics for years after we hear them?

4. I looked into it more deeply and I found that apparently what happened is that he was laid off five years ago and no one ever told him about it; but through some kind of glitch in the payroll department, he still gets a paycheck. Lauren delurked to answer this one. She’s right; it’s Office Space.

5. I don’t want to sell anything, buy anything, or process anything as a career. I don’t want to sell anything bought or processed, or buy anything sold or processed, or process anything sold, bought, or processed, or repair anything sold, bought, or processed. You know, as a career, I don’t want to do that. Lauren knew this one too. In Say Anything Lloyd Dobler is just as uncertain about what he wants to do with his life as I am.

6. These quotes are from Benny & Joon.
a) Oh. Because you know, it seems to me that, aside from being a little mentally ill, she’s pretty normal.
b) They used to be fat and juicy and now they’re twisted. They had their lives stolen. Well, they taste sweet, but really they’re just humiliated grapes. I can’t say I am a big supporter of the raisin council.

7. Life after death is as improbable as sex after marriage! Melissa knew this one! It’s from Clue. I love this movie and B just bought the DVD for me last night to replace my worn out and taped off of TV VHS version.

8. It’s easy to miss this one. You might not remember it unless, like me, you had to watch Twin Peaks: Fire Walk With Me over and over to figure out exactly what was going on.
a) When this kind of fire starts, it is very hard to put out. The tender boughs of innocence burn first, and the wind rises, and then all goodness is in jeopardy.
b) Diane, it is 4:20 PM. I’m standing on the bank of Wind River near the location of where the body of Teresa Banks was found. Diane, this case gives me a strange feeling.

9. This movie was being filmed in Pittsburgh when I lived there. Dogma is easily Kevin Smith’s best movie.
a) He still digs humanity, but it bothers Him to see the shit that gets carried out in His name – wars, bigotry, televangelism. But especially the factioning of all the religions. He said humanity took a good idea and, like always, built a belief structure on it.
b) Anyone who isn’t dead or from another plane of existence would do well to cover their ears right about now.

10. I watched this movie almost as often as I watched Annie. I was fascinated by The Dark Crystal, there were parts that scared me, but hey…I was only 3.
a) Where is this Augrah? How does she look like? How will I find her? “Follow the Greatest Sun for a day to the home of Augrah”… hmph. Some directions!
b) You look like Gelfling… smell like Gelfling… maybe you are Gelfling!

Categories: Game

Fun Game…about Books! now with answers!

20 February 2007 · 9 Comments

www.amazon.I don’t know how many people are out there reading this but I’m stealing a game from Shannon so hopefully you’ll play along.

Here’s the rules:
1. Select 5-10 (or so) books you love.
2. Post the first line from each of them.
3. Don’t mention the title or author. That’s for everyone else to figure out.
4. After someone correctly identifies the book, update the original entry to reflect that fact.

So here are the first lines of some of my favorite books. These are all books I’ve read multiple times, some many more times than others. A few of them are exceedingly easy, but hey they’re my favorites!

1. I went back to the Devon School not long ago, and found it looking oddly newer than when I was a student there fifteen years before. Shannon knew one this one! A Separate Peace by John Knowles was one of the first books I had to read in school that I really enjoyed.

2. The magician’s underwear has just been found in a cardboard suitcase floating in a stagnant pond on the outskirts of Miami. Melissa knew the other Tom Robbins book on my list, Another Roadside Attraction. It was hard to only put 2 Tom Robbins books on this list. After I read Still Life in 10th grade I had to read everything he had ever written. Thanks for playing!

3. The thing was: one million years ago, back in 1986 A.D., Guayaquil was the chief seaport of the little South American democracy of Ecuador, whose capital was Quito, high in the Andes Mountains. This is the first line of Galapagos by Kurt Vonnegut.

4. On one of our last car trips, near the end of my father’s life as a man, we stopped by a river, and we took a walk to its banks, where we sat in the shade of an old oak tree. This is the first line of Big Fish: A Novel of Mythic Proportions by Daniel Wallace.

5. They called him Moshe the Beadle, as though he had never had a surname in his life. This is the first line of Night by Elie Wiesel.

6. It was a dark and stormy night. Nice to see my hints really work. Kate just needed a little bit of help and then she realized that this was the opening line of Madeliene L’Engle’s A Wrinkle in Time. Hint: This book was first read to me by my 4th grade teacher. Many character names are similar to interrogative pronouns.

7. and it’s a story that might bore you a bit but you don’t have to listen, she told me, because she always knew it was going to be like that, and it was, she thinks, her first year, or, actually weekend, really a Friday, in September, at Camden, and this was three or four years ago, and she got so drunk that she ended up in bed, lost her virginity (late, she was eighteen) in Lorna Slavin’s room, because she was a Freshman and had a roommate and Lorna was, as she remembers, a Senior or Junior and usually sometimes at her boyfriend’s place off campus, to who she thought was a Sophomore Ceramics major but who was actually either some guy from NYU, a film student, and up in New Hampshire just for The Dressed To Get Screwed party, or a townie. This very long sentence fragment is how Rules of Attraction by Bret Easton Ellis starts off. Thanks for playing Kate!

8. Mr and Mrs Dursley, of number four, Privet Drive, were proud to say that they were perfectly normal, thank you very much. Shannon got the easy one. This is the first line from Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone by JK Rowling. Even though I’m from the US, it is the Philosopher’s Stone not the Sorcerer’s Stone as I bought the book in London to read on my flight home.

9. Suppose that you and I were sitting in a quiet room overlooking a garden, chatting and sipping at our cups of green tea while we talked about something that had happened a long while ago, and I said to you, “That afternoon I met so-and-so…was the very best afternoon of my life, and also the very worst afternoon.” This is the first line of Memoirs of a Geisha by Arthur Golden.

10. If this typewriter can’t do it, then fuck it, it can’t be done. This, easily one of the most memorable first lines I have ever read, is from Still Life with Woodpecker by Tom Robbins Thanks again Kate!

Good luck! I hope you have fun with them.

Categories: Game

When will we get to try again?

20 February 2007 · Leave a Comment

We’re still waiting to hear back from our doctor’s office. There are a few RE’s in our area. Only one group works with our insurance. We do have some coverage for infertility treatments so we’re lucky. Our insurance is pretty good. When R had her heart surgery we were worried, but most of it was covered. Our out of pocket in an Office Setting is $25 per visit then 100% of eligible expenses & Outpatient is 90% of eligible expenses after satisfying $200 deductible. I’m confused after looking over the lists of things they do cover and things they don’t cover though. It seems like the lists contradict themselves, especially the first items on each list. What do you think?

Services they cover:

  • Diagnosis and treatment of infertility when provided by or under the direction of a Physician.
  • Embryo transport.
  • Donor ovum and semen and related costs, including collection and preparation.

Services they don’t cover:

  • Health services and associated expenses for infertility treatments.
  • Fees or direct payments to a donor for sperm or ovum donations.
  • Monthly fees for maintenance and/or storage of frozen embryos.
  • In vitro fertilization, gamete intrafallopian transfer procedures, and zygote intrafallopian transfer procedures, and any related prescription medication treatment.
  • Artificial Insemination

It seems like the testing we need to figure out what’s going on and the meds needed to fix it will be covered. I think sometimes that we’re moving too fast, but at this point we’re ready for a little more intervention than our at home attempts.

We were hoping to try this cycle, since our plan was to try every month in 2007 until we get pregnant, but it doesn’t look like it will be possible. This may be a watch, test, and learn cycle. I will be out of town the weekend R should ovulate. The next try will be early April. This will be our last chance to have a baby in 2007.

Categories: TTC · doctor/midwife · insurance

Photo Friday: Bad Hair

16 February 2007 · 1 Comment

I have had some terrible hair cuts. Luckily, I have no photos of the worst of them. When I was a little girl I used to spend the night with my Memaw (great-grandmother) every Saturday night. I would go to church with her on Sunday. One weekend, I must have been 6 or 7, my mom put my hair in a French braid before I went to Memaw’s. I woke up the next morning and I had all sorts of hair sticking out of my braid. I really wanted to wear my hair in that French braid to church so I just cut off every piece of hair what was sticking out. The braid looked great, but my hair was terrible when my mom took it out!
The other terrible hairstyle that comes to mind is when I was 7 or 8 my mom thought it would be great to perm my hair. I have very thick and at the time, very long, hair. The perm only took on the short hairs that framed my face and I had ringlets hanging in front of my ears. I looked like an Orthodox Jewish man!
On to the photos, I couldn’t narrow it down so here are 4 photos of bad hair.

This photo is from the day I moved out of my mom’s house. I had been dyeing my black for a year or so and I wanted it lighter. I put stripper on it and this is what I got.

This is a photo of R when we first got together. That summer she got really hot and decided that shaving her head was a good idea. She didn’t realize how hard it was going to be to grow it out.

This is a photo of my mom when she was about 12. I think my grandmother is responsible for the mullet.

This is an old friend of mine. Her face is covered out of respect since she doesn’t know I’m posting this. She has gorgeous curly red hair. She never brushes it. This is why.

Categories: photo friday

Test Results

14 February 2007 · Leave a Comment

R’s progesterone level was 0.9 when anything under 5-10 range is considered low. The doc said that with progesterone that low there’s no way she ovulated. It was low at CD 24-25 for the past 2 months so she doesn’t think that it was just a freak anovulatory cycle since she had two in a row. We’ve been referred to an RE because our midwife doesn’t deal with infertility issues. They wouldn’t even prescribe progesterone. It was suggested that we have more testing done.
I’m a bit upset but at least we’re finding this out after trying since August and not one year later.
We’re definitely not trying this month.

Categories: TTC · doctor/midwife

Snow Day!

14 February 2007 · Leave a Comment

I got my snow day. I have yet to get any work done. I got up this morning & checked my school’s website. There was a 2 hour delay. I took a shower and started getting ready to go outside and dig the car out. R called downstairs and asked what I was doing. She said that I didn’t have classes today. Apparently when I was in the shower they changed from a 2 hour delay to a snow day!
R convinced me that I wanted to go back to bed and then we made breakfast together. I took a nap and have been lazy all day. Now it’s time to start my work. We’ve had a few scares that we might be losing power so hopefully I can get my lab reports typed up before that happens.

Categories: school · snow

I cried

14 February 2007 · Leave a Comment

I can’t believe it. When I handed in my keys I CRIED! I didn’t think I would get that upset, and certainly not in front of my staff. It’s just Bl0ckbuster. There, I said it, Bl0ckbuster. I was there for almost 8 years. I can’t believe it’s over. I think the stress is just adding up.
Don’t know where we’re going with R’s cycle. She’s late again. Until we started TTC she was never late. Before you get excited, we didn’t try in January. Our donor won’t be able to come visit this month but now that she’s late we don’t think the weekend R requested off from work will match up with ovulation. We also don’t know what the doctors will be doing about the low progesterone. We will call the Dr’s office tomorrow. Hopefully they don’t close because of the weather.
It’s snowing and has been all day. People feel the need to rent movies when it’s snowing. That means I had a terribly stressful last day. We were very busy and I was supposed to be alone for part of the afternoon.

I’m still in a funk.

Categories: BBV · TTC

Way too low

12 February 2007 · Leave a Comment

R got her bloodwork back. Her thyroid is fine but her progesterone was “way too low.” Our midwife is going to talk to one of the doctors in the practice and see what to do about things. We don’t know if we’re going to try this month. Still haven’t heard from our donor to see if he can come visit this month. If not R is off work the weekend she should ovulate so we can go there if needed.
I’m in a funk.

Categories: TTC

Crossroads

9 February 2007 · Leave a Comment

I don’t know what to do with the rest of my life. I graduate in May with my BS in Chemistry. The chemistry degree sort of fell in my lap. I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do as an undergrad either. I was originally a math major because (don’t hate me) I was really good at math. Math didn’t excite me at all. I took a chemistry class because I had to take a science class with a lab and really enjoyed it so I changed my major. If I were to stick with chemistry I would eventually like to be a professor. I worry that I won’t be able to find a job in my field, or that I would have to move my family around too much. According to my adviser, the job market for professors is pretty tight right not. A lot of schools are hiring adjuncts or part timers in lieu of full time tenure track positions.
I have also thought about going to medical school but wonder if I’m getting too much of a late start. Could I go to medical school and (G-d willing) have a new baby at home? If I went to medical school I would want to be an OB/GYN. I’ve also thought about going to nursing school, specifically a program to be a certified nurse midwife. I’d have to do an alternate entry program since I will have a BS in chemistry, not nursing.
Basically, all I do know right now is that I probably won’t be going to grad school in the fall. I have waited (procrastinated, avoided making a decision, etc.) too long and most of the application deadlines have passed. There is one PhD chem program, one BSN/MSN midwifery program, and one MS chem program that I’m applying to. They all have rolling admissions and admit people until the programs are full, or they run out of TA/GA positions. Maybe we’ll let the admissions boards decide what I will do with the rest of my life. They are in three different states. R is willing to move where ever I get into grad school. I love her.
I wish I could just job shadow for a few weeks to see what I want to do. They did that for us in high school & I didn’t go because I couldn’t pick a field. I have always been indecisive. Mostly because I worry too much. I worry that I won’t be able to support my family. I worry that taking 5 years off between high school and college will haunt me for the rest of my life. I worry that I’ll go through years of education and end up hating my career. Damn, I really do worry too much…

Categories: career · indecision · school · worrying